Notice his eye contact. If he likes you, he may either look away quickly if he is shy, or he’ll try to catch your eye and hold it or make faces. This can be uncomfortable if you don’t like him. If you feel like you have held eye contact just a fraction of a second longer than you would with anyone else, or if he looks away quickly, then there is something there. When he’s around you and he says/does something funny and everyone around laughs, his eyes will flicker towards you for a second to see if you laughed, too.

Listen to what he’s saying. If he likes you, and he’s nervous, he’ll probably start talking about himself. Many times, guys feel the need to prove themselves- especially if you talk about another guy in his company.

Be aware of touching. He might put his hand on your arm when he laughs, and won’t move his leg if it happens to touch yours, or he may hug you for small things – all are good signs of a guy liking you, unless he’s a bit of a “playboy” who flirts with a lot of girls. See if he uses any of the tricks in How to Touch a Girl, and see if he uses them more with you than with anyone else.

Watch his actions around other girls and see if he treats you differently. Some guys flirt with other girls to get your attention. It gives them a chance to see your reaction, and helps them know if you really do like them or not. You can tell that they are trying to make you jealous if they find little times when they’re flirting with the other girl to look at you. His eyes will flick over and look at you. Another sign is that when you leave, he stops flirting with the other girl. That will be a harder one to pick up on, but you can have a friend look for you or something like that.

Watch for him showing interest in things you like and do. For example, if you like a certain genre of music that he likes as well, he may suggest bands or artists for you to listen to. Another example, if you play sports he may ask to play against you just to show off that he’s good at something you both like and then also have a reason to give you compliments as well.

Check for signs of nervousness Nervous laughter, sweaty palms, deep breaths, fidgeting, looking away quickly when you notice if he is watching you are all good signs of an attraction towards you and that he is nervous about making an impression on someone he fancies.

Pay attention to his friends. If they know he’s interested in you, they might tease him subtly when you’re around, hint to you that he likes you, or even try to find out if you like him. Study their reactions to your presence – do they smile? Do they turn to him? Do they smirk in a way that suggests they know something that you don’t?

Don’t ignore him If he shows genuine interest in you, (i.e. smiles at you a lot in the hallway, work, etc., at least go out for a walk.)

Look to see if he imitates you. If he mimics you, he probably likes you, such as, if you move to another table, he’ll go with you.(I’ve had a guy who liked me mimic me before, so I know this is one thing)

Teasing If a guy teases you a lot, it might mean he likes you, but if he doesn’t tease any other girl, he probably does like you.

Hitting A guy may hit you but it’s just flirting he probably just wants to see your smile i have had a few guys that will hit me that like me. You may find it annoying if you’re not into him, but otherwise if you hit back then that’s a way then he can know that you like him back!

Compliments If you do your hair or makeup differently one day, and the guy notices, that’s a very good sign that he likes you. Most guys won’t notice, and if they do, they won’t say anything unless they’re into you. Anything like, “You look nice today,” “I like that shirt,” or even “Did you do your hair differently today? It looks nice,” are all indicators that he could be interested in you.

NOTE: If he’s a good friend of yours, these won’t necessarily be indicators of romantic interest. It could just be him being a good friend.

Often, a woman will be ready to tell a man she loves him but will hesitate out of fear of not knowing exactly what he’s feeling for her. If your guy has yet to utter those three all important words to you, there are ways to know that he does love you, even if he can’t muster up the courage to say it quite yet.

Some of the ways to know if your man loves you include:

1. He’ll want to see you as much as possible. When a man has fallen for a woman she’s the only thing he can think about. He’ll do everything in his power to spend time with her. He doesn’t think twice about driving across town to spend just five minutes with her. Men in love don’t search for excuses as to why they can’t see you. They want to see you and will try and extend their time with you at every opportunity.
2. He’ll call and text you often. Men in love crave the sound of their woman’s voice. They call, often, just to say hi and to see how your day is going. They don’t avoid your calls and if they do happen to miss one, they return it as soon as possible. If your guy exhibits this behavior, he’s hooked.
3. You know his family and close friends. This is one sign of a man in love that most women completely overlook. When we start dating a new guy we typically don’t see a problem with introducing him to everyone we know. Men are a bit more reserved when it comes to this part of the relationship dynamic. They’ll typically save introductions for women they feel emotionally connected to. This is especially true of their parents and siblings. If you know his mom and dad or you’ve spent time with his brother or sisters, he’s fallen in love with you.
4. He talks more about you than himself. Before a man falls in love, his favorite topic of conversation tends to be himself. That changes the moment he feels close to a woman. He wants to know every small detail there is to know about her and he’ll continually steer their discussions back to her. You should feel flattered if your guy wants to know what your favorite ice cream is or when you learned to ride a bike. He craves information about you because he loves you.

If you notice any of these signs in your relationship, your guy is already hooked. Never lose sight of the fact that a man’s actions will often say much more than his words.
Source: http://EzineArticles.com

At the mall, I have always been irritated by sales people who practically block your way to sample their product. I ignore these pushy merchants because they usually won’t take no for an answer, even if I attempt to say, “No, thank you.”

Morris thinks I’m being impolite, so he’s the one who ends up being detained, trying to be kind, while I wait for him to finish apologizing for not wanting their product.

I don’t feel my way of handling this is rude. I have told Morris he doesn’t have to please everyone.

-Not Rude In New York

Dear Not Rude:
I agree with your boyfriend that to ignore someone is rude. However, rather than ignore these salespeople, a firm “Not interested” should be sufficient. And if the person persists, keep walking.

The devastating earthquake that recently hit Haiti, not only killed thousands of people, tore families’ apart, leveled buildings, and robbed a country of its infrastructure; it also demonstrated to us that life should never be taken for granted. This tragedy also forced me to re-examine my own life and ask myself the very tough question, “Am I living my life to the fullest, or do I merely just “exist?”

Needless to say, this question is not always the easiest to answer, as there are many levels that success or happiness is graded upon. Many of us are happy just being housewives; slaves to the daily grind. Don’t get me wrong as the role of a mother and a wife should be embarked upon with the purest of hearts; as a mother’s love is priceless. However, what about your needs as a woman, a human being with your own life? Do you settle when it comes to your own desires?

“But what more do you really want Sandy?” a friend of mine recently asked. “You seem so restless all the time! Just sekkle yuself a bit and tings will work out okay,” he said. That is exactly my point! I am not satisfied with just “Ok”. I want more!

Not riches and fame specifically, but the chance to live my own life, the life given to me by God; to its fullest potential. To others, my ambitions may be misconstrued as being narcissistic or self- centered, as one close male friend jokingly described me recently, while comparing my similarities to another female in the “biz”. It is safe to say that this female entertainer was not a fan of my effervescent personality and sharp, but sometimes devilish, yet playful wit.

“She tink se yu full of yuself,” my friend told me, as this entertainer had disclosed to him recently. “Who cares?” I asked him, laughing out loudly with a gut busting laugh; finding the whole situation amusing and highly entertaining. “She does not know me so why is she watching me? I am not in any race with anyone but myself. Like Oprah suggested, I never look at the person beside me and I just focus on the finish line,” I said to him. Women are often times wrapped up in watching others, never focusing on themselves.” ‘Who does she think she is,” is often whispered behind our backs, while others judge and mock our ambitions. Our lives as mothers, wives and even back stabbing girlfriends, often rob us of the opportunity to harness our own creativity, and “be all that you can be,” as the army slogan suggests.

As Mo’nique recently demonstrated to us by winning a Golden Globe Award, all things are possible and all dreams are attainable. Love and live as if your life depended upon it, as on that day of reckoning in front of God, there should be no regrets in meeting your maker. Ask that man out on a date that you like. Take that trip to Paris or hike the Appalachian Trail! Bungee jump if you want to; just live as if your life depended upon it.

On my own day of atonement, because as we all know that death and taxes are unavoidable, if I am asked by God, “Now what did you do with the life that I granted you Sandy?” I would like my answer to be quick and joyous. “Well Lawd, you know that there was the little ting called an Oscar that I won, and oh yeah, I raised two handsome men on my own who are now both doctors. By the way Lawd, did you ever get the book that I sent you in the mail, the one that I wrote? It became a bestseller you know Lord!

But why am I even saying this to you, the almighty one? Lord, as we all know, you see and know all things; whether it be good or bad.

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Sandy Daley is an actress, writer and a radio and TV host. She may be reached at
sandydaley88@hotmail.com, www.sandydaley.blogspot.com or at www.sandydaley.com.