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Trying to find a loving, caring man

Dear Divine Diva:
Can you give me some advice or guidelines to follow when trying to find a loving caring man to be in a healthy relationship?

IF A MAN WANTS YOU:
If a man wants you, nothing can keep him away.
If he doesn't want you, nothing can make him stay.
Stop making excuses for a man and his behavior. Allow your intuition (or spirit) to save you from heartache.
Stop trying to change yourselves for a relationship that's not meant to be.
Slower is better. Never live your life for a man before you find what makes you truly happy.
If a relationship ends because the man was not treating you as you deserve then heck no, you can't “be friends”.
A friend wouldn't mistreat a friend.
Don't settle. If you feel like he is stringing you along, then he probably is.
Don’t stay because you think “it will get better”. You'll be mad at yourself a year later for staying when things are not better.
The only person you can control in a relationship is you.
Avoid men who’ve got a bunch of children by a bunch of different women.
He didn't marry them when he got them pregnant, Why would he treat you any differently?
Always have your own set of friends separate from his.
Maintain boundaries in how a guy treats you. If something bothers you,speak up. Never let a man know every-thing.
He will use it against you later.
You cannot change a man's behavior.
Change comes from within.
Don't EVER make him feel he is more important than you are... even if he has more education or is in a better job. Do not make him into a quasi-god.
He is a man, nothing more nothingless.
Never let a man define who you are.
Never borrow someone else's man.
If he cheated with you, he'll cheat on you.
A man will only treat you the wayyou ALLOW him to treat you.
All men are NOT dogs.
You should not be the one doing allthe bending...compromise is a two waystreet.
You need time to heal between relationships...there is nothing cuteabout baggage... deal with your issuesbefore pursuing a new relationship.
You should never look for some-one to COMPLETE you...a relation-ship consists of two WHOLE individu-als...look for someone complimenta-ry...not supplementary.
Dating is fun...even if he doesn't turn out to be Mr. Right.
Make him miss you some-times...when a man always know where you are, and your always readilyavailable to him-he takes it for grant-ed.
Never move into his mother's house. Never co-sign for a man.
Don't fully commit to a man who doesn't give you everything that you need.
Keep him in your radar but get toknow others. They say it takes a minuteto find a special person, an hour toappreciate them, a day to love them andan entire lifetime to forget them.